Practical Coping Strategies for Family Carers
A person living with dementia has a serious illness so, although it might be difficult initially to deal with the changes in behaviour and personality it isn’t possible to change those behaviours. But it is possible to change the environment in which you live. So if certain objects or activities cause anguish or distress then change or avoid them – remember that certain behaviour is most likely triggered by something so finding the cause might alleviate troubling behaviour.
But always bear in mind that unusual behaviour is often a coping tactic for a person with deteriorating brain function.
Clothing
Most people with dementia find it hard to cope with getting dressed, especially if clothes have lots of buttons and zips so try and stick with comfortable pull on clothes with elasticated waists.
Avoid any confusion about what clothes to wear by laying out a single set of clothes in the same place each morning.
Food
People with dementia don’t always understand that they need to eat and drink and may not have much appetite anyway but it is, of course, important that they receive adequate, healthy nutrition. One way to resolve the issue of a poor appetite is to have more small meals during the day instead of the regular three: breakfast, lunch and dinner. But remember to stick to healthy foods with plenty of fruit and vegetables rather than snack-type foods.
Helping a person with dementia maintain some independence can be achieved by cutting food into bite-sized portions and incorporating some finger food into mealtimes. Also stick to a regular schedule for meals so they are part of a familiar daily routine.
Communication
Body language communicates thoughts and feelings in all situations but is even more important when talking to a person with dementia. Keep language simple, speak slowly and use facial expressions and physical touch to communicate more clearly.
With some forms of dementia short-term memory has been lost but a person can still remember things from a long time ago so talk about fond memories from earlier in their lives.
Agitation/Restlessness
Feelings of agitation or restlessness can be triggered by objects, surroundings or just feelings (particularly the person with dementia feeling a lack of independence) so it is not always easy to remove the cause but some ways to minimise triggers are to keep rooms clutter-free, keep loud noise to a minimum, avoid busy places when possible and encourage independence.
Restlessness can also be the result of too little physical exercise so try and incorporate a physical activity into each day – this can be something as simple as a stroll.
Getting Professional Help
As dementia progresses the symptoms become worse and it is unlikely that family caregivers can continue to manage on their own. Many people think that once that stage is reached there is no alternative but a residential care home for a loved one.
However, there is a better alternative that offers a better quality of life for your loved one in their own home: it’s called Live-in Care.